Wives you should fight like a girl!

Lisa Bevere wrote a book called "Fight Like a Girl". If you are a girl and you have my phone number in your phone then you have probably heard me talk about it, or I have recommended it to you, or I have even given it to you. It is a book that I think every woman should read whether you are married, engaged, dating, or single because it shows us women the power we have in the world.

Now many of you might read this and think POWER - OH YEAH, or if you are a man you might think SCARY. Yet, many of us women do not realize that we desperately abuse the power we have as women or that we allow it to lie dormant and out of use, but we must realize (and Lisa Bevere excellently reveals ) that God gave us power as women so we can be a mighty force in the world, in our marriages, families, friendships, and jobs.

My husband so excellently wrote about the importance of consistency in a husband. Let me tell you he wrote that so well because he has allowed the Lord to teach him how to be consistent. I have benefited greatly because of his consistency. I have grown and have become more confident, consistent, and brave in every part of my life because of him. I feel safe and loved which opens all kinds of doors for me in my life and my marriage.

So... some might think that your husband might need to get on the consistent train and everything would be better, or you might just add that to your list of expectations of what your future husband should be (which is a great and necessary trait ) - but let me tell you there are two sides to every coin and two people in every marriage.

Wives are the guardian of the heart. Women have the unique ability to look at their man and see who and what God has destined him to be. We see his potential as a businessman, a lover, a father, a friend, a leader, and a man of God. In this vision we have two choices: we can either encourage and love our men into what they are called to be, or we can compare him to the man he is called to be and tear him down piece by piece. Women can either make or break their men. We have power in our words because we greatly control and see into the heart. We must realize the power we have so we can use it wisely and effectively. Believe me the enemy wants us to tear down our husbands and see him as a failure, but God has partnered us with our husbands so that we can lift him up and so he can grow into who God wants him to be.

Also as guardians of the heart I believe we should love with everything we have. Women feel safe when they have consistent husbands; conversely men feel safe when they know they are loved. Lisa Bevere says in her book "It is when we learn to love fearlessly that we will find ourselves perfectly loved" - I know many of us long for this and yet many of us know how hard it is because our love has been hurt in our life. Let me tell you are huge secret: When you give all of your love to the Lord, He will return it to you whole. Everyday we must go to Him who embodies love and receive perfect love from Him. If we as women can get our needs met by Jesus on a daily basis then we are set up for success in our marriages. Then we are able to love our husbands without restraint or fear and we will see him grow into an even more awesome man.

Love is woman's domain to protect, and no one can see potential in a man's life like a woman. These are Lisa's words and they are so infinitely wise - if we can grasp these two concepts not only we will be power houses in our marriages and family but we can have a huge impact in our church and community.

I encourage you to read this book. It is will change everything :)

To the singe men out there - look for a woman who can see the potential in your life, she is worth fighting for.

One last thing I would like to share with you all are the vows that I committed to my husband on our wedding day. God helped me write these out of Ephesians 5 and 1 Peter 3.

I, Jessica Ann Jordan, do hereby vow – before our Lord and man alike – these things to you and you alone, Christopher Carl Hill:

I commit my life to the prescribed soil of your heart.

I vow to submit, adapt, and cleave myself to you, always putting my needs as secondary to yours, and to always serve you as I would the Lord.

I vow to adorn myself inwardly so that I might always have a gentle and peaceful spirit towards you.

I vow to respect, admire, and honor you and to lift you up and encourage you to be the man that God has called and destined you to be.

I vow to go to the Lord daily to find my joy, satisfaction, beauty, and nourishment in Him, so that I may freely give of myself to deeply love and cherish you always.

Remember no human being is perfect and therefore every marriage is flawed, but when two people are fully committed to Jesus then the possibilities are endless and love will always grow. Our hearts are safe in His.